Say Bye, Bye, Bye to Unforgiveness

Ed Young – C3 Conference 2018 – Session 1

Ed saw a huge Doberman dragging a park bench through traffic destroying cars on the way across.

Who are you dragging through your life because of your lack of forgiveness?

Unforgiveness leads to bitterness and resentment.

A “Dumb Ask” is when you ask a question but are not willing to listen to the answer. You just want to make yourself look good.

In Matthew 18:21, Peter asked how many times a person should forgive the same offender. Rabbis would say you were being gracious to forgive 3 times. Peter suggests forgiving 7 times. Jesus said, 7 times 70 times.

Jesus told a story about God’s judgment on unforgiveness in Matthew 18:32-35.

In unforgiven relationships, the least invested has the most control. The most invested has the least control.

We are leashed to anger, stress and anxiety through unforgiveness.

To forgive means to release, as often as necessary.

We can’t change on our own. Change is a result of the great exchange that happened on the cross.

We need to preach the Gospel to ourselves daily.

“Forgive our debts as we forgive our debtors.” Matthew 6:12

We need to go to those we need to forgive and say, “I was wrong. Will you forgive me?”

4 Benefits to Forgiveness

1. Emotional

Resentment kills a fool. Job 5:2


Ephesians 4:32. Feelings aren’t foundational. Don’t feel it. Will it! Feelings follow action.

3. Physically

Proverbs 14:30. Say “Bye, Bye, Bye!” to unforgiveness.

4. Mentally

Leads to peace of mind.

Cole Phillips

I'm a Connector, linking people with God and with others to experience the kind of life God has planned for them. I am the founding and Lead Pastor of THE CONNECTION CHURCH in Buda, Texas. I previously served in churches around the state as youth pastor and as pastor before moving to Kyle in the Spring of 2004. I love to lead people to connect with God and those around them and thrive on changed lives. I earned a doctorate in missions and evangelism with an emphasis on church growth. My heart beats for helping people connect with God and connect with others in an authentic community of faith. I love listening to and making music. I also enjoy hanging out with my family. Pam and I have been married since 1991 and we have two daughters, Makenzie and Bethanie. We are planting our lives in Hays County and allowing God to build a great church through us.